在和歐普拉的訪談中,美國總統拜登(Joe Biden)提及自己早逝的長子波(Beau Biden)時仍難掩悲傷,但他會堅持下去,他在孫子、孫女的神情中看見波的影子,而這給予他無限的愛與勇氣。回顧當初妻子和女兒喪命於車禍意外,兩個兒子波和杭特(Hunter Biden)成為他的心靈支柱,是他繼續奮鬥的原因。擔任參議員時期,那段每日往返華府與家鄉的路程雖漫長,但和孩子相處的時光比什麼都寶貴。
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(6:06-6:40)I still found myself when talk about my Beau, my son who died, and I sometimes find myself say something about it, and I can’t handle it, I start to…I break down, so it’s not like the pain ever goes away, but what I do is I look at my grandson, his son, I see him, I look at my granddaughter, I see her, and I know he’s still here, I know he’s still with me.
我仍然,當我談到波,我去逝的兒子,我無法克制,我崩潰。所以,並不是傷痛會真的過去,但,我的方式是,我會看著我孫子,波的小孩,我就像看到了波,我看著我孫女,波的女兒,我就像看到了波。我知道波仍然和我在這。
(7:00-7:48)When that happened to my wife and my daughter, happened, I had a reason to live. I had a reason by these two little boys who were in the hospital, and you know, I said at the time, I probably should have never said it all those years ago. I said, “I understand how someone could be completely, thoroughly sane, and commit suicide, and decide that, look, I have been to the top of the mountains….I’m not getting there again, I had it all, and there’s just, you know, so long, but I had those two boys, and ironically, they ended up raising me…
當我太太跟女兒離世,我有活下去的理由。我當時還要面對兩個年幼的兒子,他們當時還住院,我那時說過,我是不應該這麼說,我說,”我了解有人為什麼會瘋狂,想自殺,我當時受到打擊到極限,我不想再回到那個境地,我受夠了,我忍受太久了,但我有兩個兒子,諷刺地說,不是我撫養他們長大,而是他們照顧我一路走過來。”
(15:18-15:47)I want to live up to my parents’ expectation, and I want to be that person that met my mother’s standard---being defined by my courage. I wanted to be that person who was, no matter what happened, just got back up and kept going, I wanted to be that person who was there and loyal to people who were loyal to him. I wanted to be that guy, who knew what was worth losing over.
我只是想符合我父母的期待,特別是達到我母親要求的標準----這個標準是,要具備勇氣----我想成為一個,不管發生什麼事,都能站起來,繼續往前勇敢的人;我想成為一個,對別人的忠誠能予以忠心的回報;我想成為一個知道什麼事情能讓我輸得有價值。
(16:33~16:48) Everybody knows, that you’re getting on the train every night and going home, and you know, sworn into office, actually, in the hospital when your boys were there, and so you were a dedicated father, going back and forth, from Delaware to D.C.
每個人都知道你每天搭火車上下班,你當初宣誓進入公職,當你的兒子還在醫院,所以你當一個盡職的父親,從德拉瓦州的住處往返通車到華府上班。
(17:25-17:44)The reason I went home, was I needed my kids more than they needed me, I mean, I really did, but you know, as a parent, a child can only hold an important thought for about 12 hours, if you miss it, you miss it, so even though I wasn’t ozzie and harriet, we had breakfast and dinner made, I’d go home and lie in bed with them, and they’d talk and get up…..
我為什麼通勤回家,因為我需要看到我的兒子,勝過他們需要我,真的是這樣,當個父親,一個孩子一天約只有12小時專注清醒,如果你錯過了這時間,就永遠錯過了,所以,雖然我不是像電視影集中”Ozzie and Harriet”的家庭,我們也是吃準備好的早餐晚餐,我會回家,跟孩子一起就寢,跟他們聊天、起床。